As long as you keep just gently suggesting that he could maybe display baseline hygiene skills every so often, he's not going to see any reason to change. You can have one more conversation if you want, but you need to be aware that he's living life the way he's comfortable living it; you may wind up having to either dump him or learn to live with the stink.
So, let’s talk about something that’s awkward, uncomfortable, and honestly, downright cringe-worthy: when your boyfriend decides to critique your personal hygiene during an intimate moment. I mean, who signed up for a live episode of ‘The Most Awkward Moments in Life’?
Picture this: You’re in the heat of the moment, feeling all kinds of confident and sexy, when suddenly your boyfriend hits you with a comment that makes you feel like you just walked into a room full of mirrors—completely exposed. In this case, the unfortunate soul from Reddit found herself on the receiving end of an unsolicited review of her, ahem, “down there” aroma.
Let’s break this down. After four months of dating and regular sexy time, she’s probably thinking everything is going swimmingly. And then, BAM! Out of nowhere, he says, “Your pussy smells bad.” I mean, talk about a mood killer! It’s like he took a sledgehammer to the romance and smashed it into a million pieces.
Now, let’s just pause for a second. This poor girl had just been enjoying herself, and instead of a compliment or even a gentle nudge to maybe try a different soap, he decides to take the blunt approach. Not cool, dude. Not cool.
And let’s not forget that she mentions she takes her hygiene seriously. Daily showers, deodorant—she’s not exactly living in the wild. So, what gives? Was he just having a bad day? Did he eat too many greasy tacos the night before? (Spoiler alert: it’s always the greasy tacos.)
In the aftermath of this comment, she understandably felt embarrassed and hurt. She even rushed to the shower, scrubbing herself raw in an attempt to wash away not just the physical, but the emotional sting of his words. We’ve all been there at some point, haven’t we?
Now, he did apologize later, which is a step in the right direction, but apologies can only do so much. It’s one thing to say sorry, and another to rebuild that trust and comfort level. How do you move on from something like this? How do you get past the fact that your boyfriend felt comfortable enough to share such a harsh opinion during a moment that’s supposed to be intimate and loving?
Here are a few thoughts on how to navigate this tricky situation:
1. Communicate: This is the golden rule of any relationship. Talk it out. Let him know how his comment made you feel. He might not realize the impact of his words, and it’s important for him to understand.
2. Set Boundaries: If something bothers you, it’s important to set boundaries. Let him know that while constructive feedback is welcome, there’s a time and place for everything.
3. Self-Care: After an experience like this, it’s crucial to take care of yourself. Whether that means indulging in some Bulgogi Tacos (because, why not?), treating yourself to a spa day, or simply basking in the glory of your own fabulousness, do what makes you feel good.
4. Reassess the Relationship: If comments like this become a pattern, it might be time to reassess whether this relationship is worth your time and energy. You deserve someone who lifts you up, not tears you down.
At the end of the day, we all have our moments—sometimes we say things we don’t mean, and sometimes we’re just trying to navigate the complexities of intimacy. But it’s how we handle those moments that truly defines our relationships. So here’s to open conversations, healthy boundaries, and maybe a few less greasy taco nights!
And remember, if you’re ever feeling down about yourself after a comment like that, just know you’re not alone. We’ve all been there, and we’re all just trying to figure this crazy thing called love out together.
Inspired by: “My bf said my vagina smells bad during sex” (r/GirlDinnerDiaries)